Q is for Questioning Gracefully

Firstly, I just wish to apologise to readers, fellow challengers and above all, to my co-blogger Judy, as it is my fault we are behind. I've had a busy few days, so deepest apologies. But we are STILL in the challenge, and we are STILL going to be posting. Cheers, Jess :)

 Now, on with the posting...

Have you ever had a serious desire to ask a question you knew would offend someone? Perhaps to hint at their child's rather unusual tendency to eat crayons? Or perhaps wanted to ask if they had, in all seriousness, lost their mind?

You see, I've noticed a trend of avoidance when it comes to out of the ordinary quirks. We all know my once very anorexic friend is starting to relapse, but to ask her how she's going would be crossing the line in my social circle.

Is there a way to ask the hard questions gracefully? Can you ask someone if they just passed wind at the supermarket when you know they'll be embarassed if they did or offended if they didn't? Usually, I'd go right ahead. In fact, if I'm feeling particularly vindictive, I might ask my probing questions loudly in a very public place. The pained look on people's faces as others start to stare at them and the severe blush is enough to have me in stitches for the rest of the day. I do however, hold a modicum of respect for a select few people, so I wish to master the art of graceful interrogation.

So far, I've made a list of techniques that I think are 'offence dampening' measures, and if you have a hint, let me know.

1. An innocent wide-eyed look is a must.
2. A sincere voice, potentially saccharine sweet.
3. Use of 'code words' or metaphors to soften the blow
4. An apology directly before or after the question, followed by an explanation eg. 'Sorry, but I really am curious. What's it like to have herpes? Is the burning unbearable?'
5. Showing, even if it's a lie, genuine interest in the person, rather than the topic/issue.

And so, I hope that my list of techniques will hold me in good stead for the forseable future, but if you have a tip, don't hesitate to share!!

Jessenia xoxo